3 Things You Might Be Doing That Are Keeping You Stuck

We’ve all been there—frustrated, stuck, and unsure of how to move forward. Save this for the next time you’re feeling that way, because these three patterns might be the reason why.

1. Always Looking to Others for Advice

Seeking advice from others is natural and totally welcome! Sharing experiences and learning from those around us can help us grow. But if you find yourself constantly leaning on others to make decisions or guide your next move, then that could be a sign of something deeper.

Relying too much on external voices might mean you’re not fully tuning in to your own. This often points to a wound around self-trust. Maybe, at some point, you were told or shown that your voice didn’t matter, or that you weren’t capable of making good decisions. It’s time to challenge that narrative. Start small—listen to what you think first. Trust that inner wisdom. It’s there, waiting for you to hear it.

2. Intellectualizing Instead of Feeling

Understanding your emotions on a cognitive level is valuable. But are you analyzing your feelings so much that you’re not actually feeling them? You might recognize what’s happening mentally but still feel like nothing changes. That’s because emotions aren’t something you can think your way through. They’re meant to be felt.

Sometimes feelings are just that—feelings. They’re there, regardless of whether you fully understand them. Instead of getting stuck in analysis, try ways to process and release them: movement, Reiki, dance, crying, or simply sitting with the sensations in your body. Let yourself experience the emotions. Often, this is the key to moving forward.

3. Fixing Instead of Playing

Do you ever feel like you’re in a constant cycle of self-improvement, always trying to “fix” yourself? Here’s a truth you need to hear: you don’t need fixing. The purpose of your healing journey isn’t to make yourself “better” but to uncover the real you—the authentic self that’s been buried under societal expectations and old wounds.

The goal isn’t perfection. It’s joy, play, love, and connection. So, pause the fixing for a moment and give yourself permission to have fun. Dance. Laugh. Try something new. Let play remind you why you started this journey in the first place.

These patterns are common, and breaking them isn’t about blaming yourself; it’s about noticing where you might be stuck and choosing to try something different. The next time you’re feeling stuck, check out this list and take a step toward reconnecting with yourself ❤️