Are You Chasing Love or Becoming Love?
Are you chasing love, forcing connections that don’t quite fit or feel good? Or are you becoming the kind of person who can receive, create, hold, and sustain healthy love?
I get it—deeply. I have so much compassion for you (and for the past version of myself) who desperately sought love from a wounded place, wanting to receive what you haven’t been given before.
But here’s the shift: you have the power to change the storyline and feel empowered to BECOME what you want. No more wounds running the show. Open up that big, beautiful heart.
You are capable of breaking old patterns, healing old wounds, and stepping into a new kind of love. A love that comes from wholeness.
Real Talk: Are You Ready for the Love You Desire?
Take a moment to be honest with yourself. Are you truly doing the inner work to become the person who can nourish a healthy relationship?
Ask yourself:
Do I address difficult conversations with love or do I become stubborn?
Can I identify when I am triggered and why or do I get mad at my partner for not reading my mind?
Can I vulnerably express my feelings and needs or do I shut down?
Can I sustain eye contact or do I look away and feel awkward?
Can I talk about sex, how it feels and what I need or do I feel embarrassed and let resentment build up?
These questions aren’t about judgment; they’re about awareness. Healthy love doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from a foundation of awareness, effort, and self-love.
No One Needs to Be Perfect
And let me make it clear: you don’t need to have it all figured out to find your person. You don’t have to be “healed” to be worthy of love. But cultivating a sense of self-awareness and actively working on yourself creates the space for a healthy, sustainable relationship to thrive.
And let’s remember, a healthy relationship doesn’t mean a perfect one. There will always be challenges, disagreements, and growth to navigate. What matters is having the tools, the mindset, and the heart to show up for that journey.
Becoming the Love You Seek
The truth is, we receive the relationships we’re ready for. The partner you desire—the one who communicates with honesty, shows up with love, and supports your growth—needs someone who can meet them there.
Are you the kind of person who can nurture a healthy dynamic?
Are you showing up with the vulnerability, honesty, and support you want to experience?
When you do the inner work to be the partner you’re looking for, you naturally begin to attract and co-create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
Receive the partner you want by being the partner who can nurture that special, healthy dynamic. Receive the relationship you want by being the person who can co-create that vulnerable, supportive, honest relationship.⠀
You deserve a love that feels safe, supportive, and real. And that love starts with you.